Posted by: pastordarren | September 21, 2010

Why Do We Love?

We say that we love a lot of different things – football, pizza, the mountains, our family, our car and the list can go on and on.  The word “Love” in our culture is often over used and many times miss used and may have lost it’s true meaning.

In our RENEW service on Sunday evening, we continue to talk about building community and will be focusing on the following text from 1 John:

Dear friends, if this is the way God loved us, we must also love one another.  No one has ever seen God. If we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.  This is how we know that we abide in him and he in us: he has given us his Spirit.  We have seen for ourselves and can testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world.  God abides in the one who acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, and he abides in God.  We have come to know and believe in the love that God has for us. God is love, and the person who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.  This is how love has been perfected among us: we will have confidence on the day of judgment because, while we are in this world, we are just like him.  There is no fear where love exists. Rather, perfect love banishes fear, for fear involves punishment, and the person who lives in fear has not been perfected in love.  We love because he first loved us.  Whoever says, “I love God,” but hates his brother is a liar. The one who does not love the brother whom he has seen cannot love a God whom he has not seen.  And this is the commandment that we have from him: the person who loves God must also love his brother.    1 John 4:11-21

The bottom line with this passage is that God has loved us first.  God loves us in our failings, in our weaknesses, in our good and bad times, when we do the right thing and the wrong thing, God’s love is always there.  If we are to love as God loves us, we are to do the same.  Unfortunately, many times we don’t and we love others only when they are like us, believe like we do, do good to us, etc.  This is called conditional love, ‘I will love you if . . .’ and is not the example that we have in Scripture and modeled by Jesus.  Jesus was not afraid to love people, even if they were different than He or if society said He should not or they were not lovable.

Love is also a choice and an action and not just a feeling.  Feelings come and go but each one of us can choose to treat all we come in contact  with in a loving manner.  We have the choice to treat our family, friends, neighbors, even strangers, in a loving manner that is described in the following words, “

Love is always patient, Love is always kind, Love is never envious Or vaunted up with pride. Nor is she conceited, And never is she rude, Never does she think of self Or ever get annoyed. She never is resentful, Is never glad with sin, But always glad to side with truth, Whene’er the truth should win.  She bears up under everything, Believes the best in all, There is no limit to her hope, And never will she fall.  Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

We can probably all do better at loving those around us.  Especially the church, who say we love God, does not always show love to those around us and even those of us.

Why do we love others, we love them because we are first loved by God and how are we supposed to love others, we love them the way that God loves us.  definitely a big order but one that will change the world, a relationship, a family, a community, a church, a neighborhood at a time.


  1. Thanks Darren for the reminder

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